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“My lips, two blushing pilgrims, ready stand
to smooth that rough touch with a tender kiss.”
-William Shakespeare, “Romeo and Juliet.”
OK Shakespeare, it’s 2004 and the definition of a good kiss has been slightly altered. After all, girls have gone wild and boys … well, boys will be boys.
So what makes a good kisser?
Before understanding what a good kisser is, one must be educated that there are varieties of kisses out there (It’s not just a “Peck” or “French;” grade school is over).
I stumbled upon a number of styles according to the “Kissing Techniques of the Kama Sutra.” However, I found that they needed a little something extra. Therefore I added some of my own ideas to each one. I present the unofficial-official “Kissing Techniques of the Kama Sutra” with a hint of LB. I picked a few that I found interesting and thought a few readers would enjoy (You crazy cats).
First, let’s look at the “throbbing kiss.” Ignore your partner’s upper lip and focus on kissing the lower lip in a soft, teasing manner. This will leave him or her wanting more.
If you really want to curl your partner’s toes, try slowly running your tongue across his or her lip while kissing as well. Stay on the lip with the lick, though. You’re not a cat grooming your mate.
There’s also the “greatly pressed kiss.” First press two fingers on your partner’s lips. Then, slowly replace your fingers with your mouth (Your mouth will probably touch your fingers for a few seconds). Second, run your tongue from slightly inside the mouth starting from the top of the bottom lip then licking up underneath the top lip. Just give him or her a soft brush of the tongue, then continue into the normal kissing technique of your choice.
Some of you may have already tried the aforementioned techniques. Well, now you have names for them. For those of you that haven’t and want to get a little more experimental, try them out.
OK, now back to the original question: What makes a good kisser?
It is safe to say the first way to getting at least a ‘C’ in the kissing report is good breath. Bad breath is bad. Very bad.
Now let’s address tongue-shoving. The tongue is a powerful muscle. We must learn to give a little and take a little. Don’t choke your partner, no matter how smitten you are by him or her.
Granted, a rough kiss is fun and appropriate in certain situations, but if your partner is backing away or playing tongue-of-war with you, that person might just be frantically trying to think of a way to not suffocate.
A good kiss is one that, for the most part, stays on and inside the mouth. I don’t know anyone who likes finishing a session and wiping away a pool of saliva from his or her chin or cheeks.
A good kiss is passionate and flows. Tongues are in sync and move to the beat of each other.
Finishing with a soft, no-tongue kiss to the chin or corners of the mouth is sweet. They don’t have to be open-mouthed to make a person weak-kneed.
Keep head movement to a minimum. You’re not screwing in a light bulb.
With today’s culture as sex-crazed as it is, being a good kisser is vital. It really helps for self-satisfaction, too. Who wouldn’t love knowing (and sharing) that they are fantastic kissers?
To be a good kisser or not to be, now that is the question.
Lauren is a senior communication major. She can be reached at [email protected].