Some women want to be on the go and independent and do so many things at once — the “go girls.”     
   They want to succeed in school, join every organization, juggle more than one job and look like a million bucks doing it all. Who has time for a relationship?
  This seems to be the mindset of many of us these days. We are at a crossroad. We are too old for love games but too young for love. Where is the balance, if there is one? What about the girls who came to college with a boyfriend and ended up slowly drifting away? We are so busy that we forget to enjoy the perks of life, one of them being relationships.    
   Of course, no one wants to be part of a relationship that is dysfunctional or one that we feel is not headed anywhere, but women forget that relationships are something that helps us grow and learn about ourselves, what we like and what we do not like. We gain life experience from this. We grow as women from this. Instead, we usually shun relationships away because we simply do not have the time for them.    
   A New York Times article by Kate Taylor titled, “Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game, Too,” stated how more women today who are driven by success have pushed love to the side and engaged in “casual hookups” to avoid relationships.
    Now, do not get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with “you time.” That is most important — keeping your priorities straight and finding yourself in your own way. No woman needs a guy to help define who she is. The simple matter is sometimes the best lessons are life lessons and you should not want to miss out on a thing in your journey to success. This does not mean to go out and jump headfirst into a relationship, especially if you know that you do not have the time to give a legitimate effort or that this is a failure in the making. Women should remain smart. If something seems worth your while, why not take a chance?
    We have been told so many times that at this point in our lives it is important as women to be successful at all costs, and guys just do not fit into that. The college movies we watch of the love story where, in the end, the girl and the guy realize they are perfect for the each other and run off into the sunset is just fairytale.
    The “go girls” like to think it has to be one or the other, school or him, but if both of you have your priorities straight and know that nothing should come before your education and your goals, it doesn’t have to be this way. If you go your entire college career in solitude that is just fine, if that’s the way you prefer it.
    Movies and television shows, like “Being Mary Jane’s,” portrayal of the successful career woman who is unhappy because she is single is far from reality. To all of the “go girls,” you will not end up lonely with 40 cats if you decide to hold off on relationships to reach your goals first. Don’t forget to live in the moment sometimes, though.
   We need to remember there are some things you just can’t plan. You need to enjoy yourself. Live and laugh and find love, or not. College is a stressful time, but as women, we are capable of so much and able to do it with style and grace. Take a chance with your heart if it is worth taking. You may create a real-life love story or you may not. Why not make a few memories on your way to the top?