My girlfriend and I have been together for about 5 months. Lately I’ve noticed random, small amounts of money missing from my room, wallet, or wherever I leave it. I live alone so it has to be her stealing the cash. What should I do?
Unless you catch her in the act, Miss Gold Digger will never learn her lesson in pick pocketing.
If she is constantly taking your cash, where does that leave your bond together? It’ll probably leave you both stuck in a rut with no respect between you.
Even if she truly needs help with her expenses, she shouldn’t be snatching the funds from you.
You can do one of a few things to determine the future of your relationship.
Probably the most tantalizing idea is embarking on an investigation. Set your scandalous lady up and catch her in the act of doing the inevitable.
If you have some dough for the experiment, B.Y.O.B. (bring your own buddy).
Two investigative masterminds are better than one-unless you would rather no one else know about your girlfriend’s weakness.
You now have the ability to cast a spotlight on her and catch her in the act of thievery.
Another exciting way you could go about solving this problem would be to just talk to her. That would be an adventure in itself.
Don’t start out by calling her names, threatening to take the life of her new kitten Whiskers. Calmly tell her you’ve noticed she might be in a quandary with finances.
Say you would love to help her out here and there-if you still want to aid her empty wallet.
If she fesses up to her wrongful doings and apologizes, chances are she’s sincerely sorry.
Then tell her she has two choices.
She can either take her chances that you are a forgiving boyfriend who will do her-and Whiskers-no harm.
Or she can redeem herself by paying for your dinners for a week. And we’re not talking McDonald’s.
Another option is to break up with her. The next day call the Pest Control and Extermination Services of Starkville and give them her address, as well as post her on the “America’s Most Wanted” Web site.
If you do nothing I’ve suggested just remember to not chew her out too much if you catch her in a lie. I’m guessing your girlfriend is especially delicate because of her insecurity about having to steal your cash.
Feel free, however, to explain to her how much her actions have put your relationship on the rocks. She will certainly have to earn your trust again.
This is a no-win situation anyway you go about it: She’s distraught that you are aware of her deceitfulness and you’ve already lost loads of cash you could have spent on renewing your Playboy subscriptions.
People make mistakes. They just need to learn from them. You could be the person who puts more meaningful things in her life than money.
Crystal will answer readers’ questions. E-mail questions to [email protected]