Q: I was in a long-term relationship last semester. When my girlfriend told me to change, I did. I altered my work schedule, got into shape and even changed spiritually for her. She apparently thought I didn’t change fast enough so she broke up with me right before Christmas. Now I’m dating someone who makes me feel good about who I am and has helped me forget my last relationship. But now my ex has come back into my life. I still love her and want to hang out with her. What do I do now?
A: Your evil ex has come back into your life to haunt you. It sounds like your past relationship didn’t start off with the right steps, let alone end on a positive note. There’s an excellent chance your ex-girlfriend just wants what she can’t have anymore.
Probably the most unsettling problem here is that you still love your ex. People always say they will love their companion forever, no matter what. But what does it take to stop loving someone? Shouldn’t getting hurt be a valid enough reason to try to forget about the witch?
Try to veer as far away as possible from this poisonous snake. She no longer has the right to be in your life, especially since she degraded you by turning you into someone you weren’t and then blindsiding you with a breakup. Instead, turn to people who celebrate who you are… ahem, your current girlfriend?
If you can’t be sure and want to split your time up between the two ladies, you need to be honest with both of them. There’s a 100 percent chance that your current woman won’t appreciate you hop-scotching your merry way over to your ex’s apartment if you intend to continue what you two have now. And if she doesn’t care, there’s something extremely wrong with her.
That’s not to say you can’t be friends with your ex. She took up a major portion of your life that meant a great deal to you. You would be giving up that segment of your existence should you push her away without any explanation.
The only catch here is that you need to be completely sure you don’t have feelings for your ex if you chill with her. It would be downright disrespectful to your present girlfriend to go out with your ex with ulterior motives or even just sit and stare at those generously proportioned breasts you miss so much.
Go with your first instincts-if you can remember them. But don’t hurt someone else in the process. You remember filling those heartbreaking shoes, don’t you?
Your ex-girlfriend may be tempting you again now, but will she be there when you stay later than expected at work, forget to drink your protein shake or pray to the wrong god? You have a great life without her now-why go back to her when you didn’t have one at all?